Trick your brain for Happiness (Excerpt-4)

Sex and Happiness

Lots of sex doesn’t always mean fulfilling sex or happiness. Factors such as the quality of sex and couple compatibility are more important for achieving a happy sex life.

 The frequency of sex is just one factor. Couple compatibility, quality, and type of sex are also important. The link between sex and being happy seems to be there, but it is complex.

Oxytocin is known for its role in female reproduction. It is released in large amounts during labor and after stimulation of the nipples. It is a facilitator for childbirth and breastfeeding. Studies have found oxytocin’s role in various behaviors, including orgasm, social recognition, bonding, and maternal behaviors. This hormone is believed to be involved in a wide variety of physiological and pathological functions such as sexual activity, penile erection, ejaculation, pregnancy, uterine contraction, milk ejection, maternal behavior, social bonding, stress, and many more.

 Frequency of sex

According to the Kinsey Institute, 18 to 29-year-olds have sex about 112 times per year. This works out at more than nine times sex every month or twice a week.

People aged 30 to 39 have on average 86 times sex in a year which is seven times a month or more than once a week.

People in their forties have an average of 69 times sex per year, about once a week.

So, depending on age, having sex once or twice each week is the norm.

It has been found out that 13 percent of married couples have sex a few times per year, 45 percent do it a few times a month, 34 percent make love two or three times a week and seven percent of couples get it on four or more times every week.

It has also been found that for many folks having a lot of sex makes them happier.

Couple compatibility is key to a happy sex life

 Quality of sex

Having sex twice a week may be perfect for some partners but it’s the quality of sex rather than frequency that matters. 

Couples with far less sex felt more satisfied with their sex lives with quality sex. Satisfaction.

Type of sex

People are self-aware and mindful of their needs about sex and happiness.

People feel they need to have intercourse but that is not true because there are many types of sex. Some get as much satisfaction from cuddling. Cuddling releases oxytocin. So, for asexual folks, this is likely to be far more satisfying than intercourse.

Make sure you’re having the sex you want to be happy

 The frequency of sex doesn’t equal happiness

 A happy sex life requires quality over quantity

Doing chores might be necessary, but sex should never be a chore!

Feel fulfilled: quality beats quantity for sex 

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